Single people, married people, caregivers… anyone can be lonely
Loneliness is one of the behavioral components, of the grief process, that all caregivers must work through. You might be like my twenty-something year old neighbor. She is newly diagnosed with Cancer and trying to care for herself. Or, you might be more similar to my eighty year old friend who cares for her spouse. Regardless of your station in life, loneliness may creep in.
Loneliness in Caregiving
The loss of friends and companions, as a result of caregiving, can be devastating. So far, we have addressed the following tips:
- Encouraging ourselves.
- Doing something to uplift others.
- Realizing how crucial our thoughts are.
- Listening to the voice of God, rather than the lies of the enemy.
- Praising God alone.
- Filling ourselves with the Word of God.
The next step to eradicate loneliness:
Now, let’s turn our attention to something that can start to heal the loss of companionship- laughter.
It may be difficult for you to laugh during dark and trying times, but laughter has so many benefits. Whether you find a comedy you like to watch, a cute comic strip, or funny book, please look for something to laugh about every day.
The science behind laughter:
Initially, laughing alone may seem awkward but give it a try anyway. It has been said that one minute of laughter can boost your immune system for up to 24 hours. Smiling releases neurotransmitters called endorphins, which strengthen the immune system.
Studies have also shown that hospital patients who engage in laughter heal much quicker than those who do not. If laughter can cure the physical body, it can certainly begin to mend the vexed mind.
Other than physical and mental health, what are some additional benefits of laughter? Laughter endears you to others. Click here for a post about two types caregivers- the endearing caregiver and the annoying caregiver.
Laughter also disarms those who might otherwise be against you.
To get you started, on your way to laughter, here is a cute joke that was told to me by a reader of this blog:
What do you call a frog hanging from the ceiling? A mistletoad!
This one simple joke made me laugh so hard that I hung a little frog from the ceiling of the kitchen. I called him my “mistletoad” until the day he jumped to his untimely demise.
My silly prank may not crack you up, like it did me. If not, there are additional ideas below.
Another suggestion, to bring sunshine into a dark house, is to buy yourself some funny signs. I stock up on humorous wall hangings at Hobby Lobby. When the signs are not on sale for 40% off, Hobby Lobby always has a coupon online.
For more reading on these topics, scan the menu on this blog. An additional post about discovering a way to laugh each day can be found by clicking here. Or, click here if you need extra motivation to begin smiling.
Below you will find some short quotes I was given, by another reader of this blog, to get your smiles started:
- “Do you believe in love at first sight, or should God walk by you again?”
- “Did you know that Hondas are mentioned in the Bible? The apostles were all in one accord.”
- “Live so that the preacher won’t have to lie at your funeral.”
- “God didn’t do it all in one day- what makes you think you can?”
If you are lonely, you will be surprised by how precipitously your dark mood will brighten just by incorporating some fun in the day.
This will end the three part series on loneliness. We will come back to the topic later since it is such a prevalent one. If you are lonely due to losing a loved one, please click here to read a list of valuable resources.
Today’s challenge is for you to find laughter.
Caregiver, please use the comment section to tell us your favorite jokes and let us know how you incorporate laughter into your daily routine. What is something you suggest for adding joy to the day?
The joy of the Lord is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10