Have you lost a spouse, sibling, parent, child, friend, or relative? You are not alone. Your grief may be completely unbearable, as was the case of a friend of mine. She lost her only child when he was 18, within a year she passed away as well.
I know people who were childless and then lost their only living relative when their spouse passed away. In the post about resentment, I tell of a woman who resented her husband for dying. I have friends who watched a spouse and a child die in accidents and friends who slowly lost loved ones to Cancer. However the loss occurred, or whatever your relationship was with the person, loss is loss.
When a Loved One Dies
If you have lost a loved one, or if you know of someone who lost a loved one, there are no words that can heal that loss. Nothing you do or say can bring back the person who died. Grief is natural. Below are some resources that were composed by people who went through loss.
Resources by people who have lost loved ones:
- I was introduced to this first book when I watched the amazing interview on Life Today with James Robinson. It actually blew me away so much that I watched the interview a few times. This gentleman lost his little girl days before Christmas. The picture, on the front of the book, is of her eyes which were donated to two different individuals in the organ donor program. Her name means “Lion”, hence the title “Through the Eyes of a Lion”. To order Levi Lusko’s book, check out your local bookstore or go to https://www.christianbook.com/
2. This next book was written by an amazing man I knew prior to moving here. I went to school with his son, before his son died in his twenties. The book is also written in the first person point of view, from the man who was walking through the unexpected, tragic death of a child. Dr. Kirk Neely wrote an outstanding book on grief that I have bought for people whose spouses passed away. His book is “When Grief Comes”.
3. Next is a man most of you are familiar with. We all loved watching Tony Dungy coach at the Superbowl. He unfortunately lost a son a few months prior. Tony has several books that you can look for at your local bookstore.
4. Louie Giglio also wrote “The Comeback” on overcoming. I do not want to incorrectly paraphrase him, but here is a quick summary to the best of my ability. He went through severe anxiety, panic, and depression due to the loss of a parent and financial loss during the stock market downswing, while taking on a new job. Louie, like Laura Story who I wrote about in an earlier post, is also the real deal. I had the privileged of listening to Louie’s teachings each Tuesday night over a decade ago.
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5. Next is a story you are probably familiar with. A young musician watched his wife die of Cancer and was left alone to raise their special needs little girl. Joey and Rory have music CD’s available as well as a DVD “To Joey With Love” that chronicles their last days together.
7. Speaking of music, Louie Giglio wrote a song that he sung when he woke every night at 2 am while he was going through his stress. It was recorded by Chris Tomlin. The song “I Lift My Hands”.
8. You are also probably familiar with the story behind the song “It is Well with My Soul”. If you are not familiar with Horatio G. Spafford’s tale, here it a short version. He had the grief of losing his young son to pneumonia, followed by losing most of his business in the great fire of Chicago, then he lost all four of his daughters in a boat crash.
Horatio booked a boat voyage to be with his wife (the only member of his family that survived). Four days into the trip, Horatio was called into the captain’s cabin as the captain told Horatio that they were over the spot where his four daughters drowned. It was at that moment that Horatio penned the words to the song “It is Well with My Soul”.
It is well with my soul.
The stories on here are not to be trite or to devalue your loss. Instead, these resources are to help, encourage, and let you know that your feelings are justified and normal. If you have other books on grief you would like to recommend, please leave a comment in the reply section of the “gifts” post by clicking here. Or, feel free to let us know about your grief process on one of the posts, such as depression, loneliness, or dreading the holidays.
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